Book Review: The Courage To Be Disliked
Book Information
Title: The Courage To Be Disliked
Author(s): Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga
Genre(s): Self-help, Psychology, Nonfiction
Published On: May 8, 2018
Publisher: Allen & Unwin
Pages: 288
The Courage to be Happy [Hardcover], The Courage To Be Disliked 2 Books Collection Set. Description:- The Courage to be Happy: True Contentment Is In Your Power In The Courage To Be Happy, Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga again distil their wisdom into simple yet profound advice to show us how we, too, can use twentieth-century psychological theory to find true happiness. The Courage To Be Disliked: How to free yourself, change your life and achieve real happiness The Courage to be Disliked shows you how to unlock the power within yourself to become your best and truest self, change your future and find lasting happiness. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of 19th century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, the authors explain how we are all free to determine our own future free of the shackles of past experiences, doubts and the expectations of others. It's a philosophy that's profoundly liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change, and to ignore the limitations that we and those around us can place on ourselves.
This is not a sponsored post, all opinions are my own!
The Book In 3 Sentences
- Your past does not define who you are today, but rather your current goals!
- Discover and focus on your own tasks, not allowing anyone else to interfere!
- Find the courage to live earnestly each and every day!
How The Book Changed Me
This book has given me a new perspective on life. It has allowed me to hone in on my tasks, as well as lessen my stress by not worrying about others' tasks. In addition, I have realized how I can achieve happiness and fulfillment in life; by taking actionable steps each day to become better and make improvements. It is a lifelong journey, and not something that will happen overnight. However, I have been actively giving myself a greater sense of worth and happiness. I plan on reading the sequel to the book next, and will post an update on it once I am finished!
How I Came Across The Book/Who Should Read It
I came across this book from Ali Abdaal! He is one of my favorite YouTubers and has had a great impact on my life! His videos have helped shape and guide me through all sorts of problems.
I would recommend this book to anyone who isn't satisfied with their life. It was a truly eye-opening viewpoint on life, and it helped me to lower my overall stress and to gain more control and happiness in my own life. Even if you feel happy and content, the book's dialogue is very good and would be a very interesting read for anyone into self-improvement!
My 3 Favorite Quotes
"All problems are interpersonal relationship problems."
"It’s quite simple. It is when one is able to feel “I am beneficial to the community” that one can have a true sense of one’s worth."
"We determine our own lives according to the meaning we give to those past experiences. Your life is not something that someone gives you, but something you choose yourself, and you are the one who decides how you live."
Summary/Thoughts
This book is set up in a dialog, where a philosopher is going back and forth with a student. At first, this seemed a bit strange for me to read; however, I ended up LOVING it! I often found myself wondering the same question as the student, and in the next few lines, those points would be addressed.
A big takeaway from this book starts with the idea that one's past does not define the present. It goes through a series of examples about this point and settles in on the idea that people make goals that cause them to be happy without even realizing it. It is a hard point to grasp at first, but after reading the book it was very eye-opening to apply to my own life.
The next big point to me was the idea that "All problems are interpersonal relationship problems". In other words, all of your problems stem from relationships: friends, spouses, teachers, etc. Again, my explaining this point simply will not do it justice. The dialog hammered this point in, and after reading it was by far the most life-changing aspect of the book. Realizing this idea of a "separation of tasks", where you learn what your tasks are, not to let others interfere in them, and that most of your problems are other people's tasks, so you should not concern yourself with them.
The final major point I want to touch on is the idea that happiness can be found by a sense of contributing to the community. You need to actively live every day earnestly, to your full potential. In addition, you need to find a sense of contribution to your community (which can be any number of things). This contribution has to fulfill your own need, but not necessarily others.
Don't miss out on the opportunity to revolutionize your mindset and find true contentment. Start reading "The Courage to Be Disliked" today and discover the courage to live authentically, pursue your goals, and embrace happiness on your own terms. I HIGHLY recommend everyone to give it a read. It has truly been a wonderful book for me and helped me improve my life and find a lot more happiness!
